talmania asked: (C) see that what I'm doing to myself is too extreme and that I should love myself the way I want to. Thank you so much you don't understand how much that helped me especially since I've hated how I looked for a couple of years now. I know some days I'm gonna have this feeling but thank you for showing me that I am beautiful no matter what :) sorry for the long message. I hope you have a really nice day :)
No, no, you didn’t bother me at all! In fact, I’m quite pleased that at least ONE person took my message seriously. Yes, it was written in all caps and yes it could have been put more rationally, but I was trying to get a point across that I’ve been trying to do for years. If you want to have a healthier body, that is totally fine, IF you sincerely have a health-related issue. But I think that going overboard with making yourself have a “perfect hot” body is bullshit, hence why I wrote my post. You are a beautiful person and I hope one day you’ll embrace that individual beauty of yours. I’m glad I made your day; sorry for the delayed response. :) <3
talmania asked: Hey I just wanted to take the time to say thank you. I just read everything you wrote about body image that to this day I'm still struggling with. Is say ever since June I've been working out almost everyday trying to get a "perfect body" because I thought that if I look "hot" that maybe a guy or girl would find me attractive. Yesterday I let myself eat al lot of candy when I was with friends and I got really paranoid. When I woke up I saw the post and I cannot thank you enough for letting me(c)
To my followers and to anyone who hate on their bodies, LISTEN UP:
I am so SICK and TIRED of seeing all my followers on my dash who reblog/post stuff that is self-hating, self-deprecating, and self-harming. Just…. STOP. FOR CHRIST’S SAKE, READ THIS GODDAMN POST AND STOP.YOU ARE ALL FUCKING BEAUTIFUL AND HERE’S WHY:
(warning: this is a long rant, written in all caps. I’m very passionate about this subject matter and feel like too many people don’t truly believe me or understand when I tell them just how goddamn beautiful they are. So. Please. Read this and share)
PEOPLE WHO HATE ON THEIR BODIES OR WISH FOR SOME NEWER, PERFECTED PIECE OF BULLSHIT THAT’S BEEN FABRICATED IN THE IMAGINATION OF SOCIETY’S STANDARDS, REALLY REALLY PISS ME OFF. NOT BECAUSE I THINK YOU GUYS ARE PATHETIC, BUT BECAUSE I’VE BEEN IN YOUR PLACE, AND I KNOW HOW POINTLESS IT IS BECAUSE MY BODY IS MY OWN AND IT’S GORGEOUS AS HELL AND ANYONE WHO THINKS OTHERWISE CAN GO FUCK THEMSELVES. BECAUSE THE FIRST STEP TO HAPPINESS IS LOVING YOURSELF. SERIOUSLY, THE AMOUNT OF BLOGS I SEE ON MY DASH THAT HATE THEMSELVES OR THINK THEY’RE NOT ATTRACTIVE MAKE ME SO FRUSTRATED, I JUST JHXHFIUEDBVOJFODE
ALL RIGHT, Y’ALL WHO HATE THEIR BODIES OR WISH THEY LOOKED LIKE SOMEONE ELSE OR JUST DON’T LOVE THEMSELVES, SIT YOUR ASSES DOWN AND PAY ATTENTION. FIRST OF ALL, NO ONE IS PERFECT. NO ONE. IF YOU PLAN TO SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE TRYING TO MAKE YOURSELF PERFECT OR SPEND THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS TO SURGICALLY CHANGE WHAT MAKES YOU SPECIAL, DON’T.
NO ONE ELSE CAN REPLICATE YOURSELF AND NO ONE CAN EVER TOP YOUR AWESOMENESS. EVEN IF YOU HAVE A TWIN/TRIPLET/ETC, YOU ARE STILL DISTINCTLY DIFFERENT FROM EACH OTHER IN SOME WAY. WE ARE ALL SO BEAUTIFUL, AND WE DON’T EVEN REALIZE IT BECAUSE OF SOCIETY TELLING US THAT ONLY SKINNY PEOPLE ARE PRETTY, OR ONLY “FIT/HEALTHY” PEOPLE ARE PRETTY, OR EVEN ONLY “CURVY” PEOPLE ARE TRUE BEAUTIES. BULL. FUCKING. ROAR.
IF YOU ARE THIN AND SLENDER AND DON’T STARVE YOURSELF TO MAKE YOURSELF THINNER, YOU ARE GORGEOUS. IF YOU ARE CURVY AND HAVE A LITTLE MORE MEAT ON YOUR BODY, YOU ARE GORGEOUS. IF YOU ARE TONED AND FIT, YOU ARE GORGEOUS. IF YOU ARE SOMEWHERE IN-BETWEEN, YOU ARE GORGEOUS. IF YOU HAVE A BODY THAT IS NOT STARVED TO DEATH OR DANGEROUSLY OBESE, IF YOU HAVE A BODY THAT MAINTAINS A DECENT HEALTH SYSTEM, IF YOU HAVE A BODY THAT YOU LIKE TO GLAMORIZE, IF YOU HAVE A BODY THAT YOU LIKE TO KEEP NATURAL, YOU. ARE. FUCKING. GORGEOUS. AND BEAUTIFUL.
YOUR DNA IS SO UNIQUE, SO RANDOMLY ASSORTED FROM THE MOMENT YOU WERE CONCEIVED, YOU LITERALLY CANNOT REPLACE ANOTHER SOUL. EVERY HUMAN BEING ON THIS FUCKING AMAZING PLANET OF OURS IS A BEAUTIFUL CREATION OF AWESOMENESS. WE ARE ONE OF THE FEW SPECIES ON THIS PLANET THAT HAVE AN ENORMOUS VARIATION OF OUTWARD APPEARANCES, YET WE ARE ALL PRACTICALLY IDENTICAL ON THE INSIDE. YOU KNOW HOW AMAZING THAT IS? WE ARE LITERALLY SO UNIQUE FROM EACH OTHER THAT THERE IS NO CLEAR-CUT GROUP DIFFERENCES, AND YET WE ALLOW OURSELVES TO SUCCUMB TO THE BELIEF THAT CERTAIN “LOOKS” TOP OTHERS.
SO STOP HATING YOURSELF.
LOOK IN THE MIRROR.
LOVE THOSE EYES.
LOVE THOSE LIMBS.
LOVE THAT NOSE.
LOVE THAT MOUTH.
LOVE THOSE PEARLY WHITES.
LOVE YOUR EARS.
LOVE THAT HAIR OR LACK THERE-OF.
LOVE THAT SKIN PIGMENT.
LOVE THOSE BLEMISHES.
LOVE THOSE FRECKLES, MOLES, AND SPOTS.
LOVE THOSE TUMMY ROLLS.
LOVE YOUR SEX.
LOVE YOUR GENDER.
LOVE YOUR CHEST.
LOVE THOSE BREASTS, WHATEVER SIZE THEY ARE.
LOVE YOUR FATNESS.
LOVE YOUR SKINNINESS.
LOVE YOUR FITNESS.
LOVE YOUR IN-BETWEEN-NESS.
LOVE YOUR MUSCLES.
LOVE YOUR BLOOD.
LOVE YOUR SKIN, BONES, ORGANS, AND TISSUE.
LOVE EVERY SINGLE GODDAMN PARTICLE OF YOUR NATURAL BODY.
BECAUSE YOU HAVE ONE.
AND IT IS YOURS.
AND YOU ARE A GODDAMN GORGEOUS MOTHERFUCKER.
THAT IS ALL.